tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post4150075714306045625..comments2024-03-18T00:53:33.065+11:00Comments on in all honesty: Q&A: how do I balance home-making and minstry?Jeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01538502318975037711noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-81710263327895884612008-10-04T22:55:00.000+10:002008-10-04T22:55:00.000+10:00I'm not always very good at getting the balance wi...I'm not always very good at getting the balance with this. I think I over-do it and then have to pull back sometimes, but what follows is how I've tried to think about this sort of thing. It is particularly related to new ministry situations, which sounds like what you're going to be moving into. It is, of course, all stuff I've learned from older, wiser Christians.<BR/><BR/>During the first 6 months of a new ministry situation, it's worth just sitting back and watching without getting involved in things. That way, you have time to invest in relationships and find out what is really most needed and how much time it's likely to take up. It also helps you to remember that your primary ministry is within your home while the situation is new and exciting and helps you to see the dificulties that might arise. Get involved in things, but don't take on leadership. After that waiting and watching time, then take on new things one at a time. This helps you not to take on too much. <BR/><BR/>I think it's worth weighing up your support networks before you take on new things too - in Perth we had two sets of very supportive parents around. They were very happy to look after kids and help out when I was finishing assignments for college or busy with more intensive ministry seasons (eg Women's Convention or setting up new children's ministry initiatives at church). That's not the case here in the UK, so that has changed how much I take on. <BR/><BR/>I need to let my 'no's give value to my 'yes'es by not saying 'yes' to everything, but by choosing only the very best things to say 'yes' to. In answering this bit, once thing to consider is also to what extent the ministry will enhance my husband's ministry. Where it does, it's sometimes a better thing to say 'yes' to (of course, this isn't to say that being a good wife and mum doesn't enhance his ministry as a husband/dad or that looking after the house stuff doesn't free him up - just meaning there are some things he can't do so well at church).<BR/><BR/>Finally, I need to remember that this will look different in each situation. It's obvious, I know, but it's tempting to think 'X can do this. Why can't I?' etc. <BR/><BR/>In the end though, the line will look different depending on what my energy levels, my husbands energy levels, my kids needs...are at any one time. That means I need to be re-evaluating how we're going every so often. <BR/><BR/>This is a long reply and I feel like I haven't really answered the question, but hopefully it helps with directions. I'm not sure there really is a clear line. I think it's a constant juggle. But I think the longer I've been a ministry wife, the easier it gets. I think I can 'feel' when I've pushed it too much better now than I used to be able to. <BR/><BR/>Becmattnbechttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01885771993409495143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-16046685047019797732008-10-03T18:15:00.000+10:002008-10-03T18:15:00.000+10:00wow - it's a big question isn't it? I guess the m...wow - it's a big question isn't it? I guess the most general answer is in prayer and seeking God's wisdom - also I guess knowledge of the needs of our families, which vary immensely, will play a big part. I know there are things I'd like to be part of in our church, but because of my husbands needs (and now my own health needs - I'm still learning to take care of myself and that fine line between selfishness and reality - but that's a different story) it just isn't possible - and I guess knowing when that is real and not just an excuse as well... I think the answer will be so different for each of us. I guess partly not overlooking opportunities God places in our paths is part of it too?Jeana Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03606307055785738209noreply@blogger.com