tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post4881478612961785608..comments2024-03-18T00:53:33.065+11:00Comments on in all honesty: why we don't have a clothes dryerJeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01538502318975037711noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-3563493810773703722011-05-09T14:21:15.192+10:002011-05-09T14:21:15.192+10:00Thanks for the post Jean. I've enjoyed reading...Thanks for the post Jean. I've enjoyed reading the follow up comments from you and others. It was definitely something I need to remind myself of, probably why I said it in the first place!Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11235980969755979085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-13046378788624674722011-05-08T07:57:16.549+10:002011-05-08T07:57:16.549+10:00Fair enough! Although I do admit to missing ours -...Fair enough! Although I do admit to missing ours - especially on those mornings when my daughter is looking for a dry shirt...<br /><br />Best used sparingly and in moderation, perhaps, but still useful.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01538502318975037711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-24419094574348100392011-05-08T05:40:44.306+10:002011-05-08T05:40:44.306+10:00I'm inclined to think the answer to 'why d...I'm inclined to think the answer to 'why don't we have a dryer?' is 'why should we?' They cost money to run, they damage the environment, and they damage your clothes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-5915627251375627392011-05-03T15:13:05.310+10:002011-05-03T15:13:05.310+10:00Thanks, Alison. I find what you say about finding ...Thanks, Alison. I find what you say about finding a balance helpful.<br /><br />And yes, Jenny, you're right - it's not just Cn/non-Cn, it's how we make decisions as Christians about our priorities and how we'll live. I am saddened by the pressure many women feel to work to maintain a certain lifestyle when we could be accepting a lower standard of living and using our time for kingdom things: like raising a family and serving in church and community. Clearly this is a temptation we all face to a greater or lesser extent.<br /><br />Jean.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01538502318975037711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-26848587572900663372011-05-03T09:55:44.907+10:002011-05-03T09:55:44.907+10:00I've thought about this issue quite a lot so I...I've thought about this issue quite a lot so I relate to your story. But I've come to realise its not just a Christian vs non-Christian thing. It's actually about teaching our kids that they have choice - they can make choices about how to spend their money, they can make choices about what they do or don't need/want, they can makes choices that are different to the 'Joneses'. <br /><br />So many women I chat to end up going back to work when they have tiny babies to pay off massive mortgages and a lifestyle that is perceived as essential and no-one seems to have ever said to them 'you do actually have a choice - you could do your life differently'. <br /><br />I subscribe to the 'Simple Savings' website and I'm constantly astounded by how financially trapped people are by what they perceive to be the essentials of life. <br /><br />I think as Christians we already think about living differently but we have a real opportunity to teach our children that life doesn't HAVE to be a certain way.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17557633180012575687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-12388554958084198622011-05-02T14:37:30.234+10:002011-05-02T14:37:30.234+10:00Hey, thanks for sharing that. we're dealing wi...Hey, thanks for sharing that. we're dealing with this too and i'm struggling to find a balance between avoiding looking like we need help (we don't, we just have different priorities) without playing keeping-up-with-the-joneses...Alison Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08202280612768759482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-77001541566874945062011-05-02T13:49:35.650+10:002011-05-02T13:49:35.650+10:00Thanks, Gordo!Thanks, Gordo!Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01538502318975037711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-90362000402409761792011-05-02T13:49:23.370+10:002011-05-02T13:49:23.370+10:00Hi Simone,
Yeah, no big-noting here! :)
Yes, the...Hi Simone,<br /><br />Yeah, no big-noting here! :)<br /><br />Yes, there's always a risk that our children will learn a "we're-better-than-so-and-so" attitude from us. That would be profoundly unhelpful. Whether they learn that will depend on our general attitude to ourselves and others, and most of all on whether we teach and model the gospel of grace. To be honest, the risk for my kids is probably the opposite - that they feel embarrassed about being different rather than superior - but I guess the risk for every family is different.<br /><br />What I'm trying to do is to guide our kids towards a gospel-oriented perspective on money, possessions and career. I think it's okay to live our lives transparently in front of them (both the good and bad bits) so they can copy the good and learn from the bad. It's good for them to know, for example, why Steve works in ministry and why we give money away (and even how much). <br /><br />I'd be happy for them to repeat it at school, to be honest! It'd help people to see that our values are different. Though not if they did it in a "we're better than you" kind of way. But I think that's pretty unlikely given the child concerned. I guess that's a judgement call you make depending on, as you say, the age and personality of your kids.<br /><br />On another issue (which you were kind enough not to mention!) I did consider not posting this because it sounds like I'm big-noting my godliness (small that it is) in front of the whole blogging community!! I thought I'd risk that and share my thoughts all the same. In my case, people-pleasing would have meant not-sharing (so as not to look boastful) rather than sharing.<br /><br />Love Jean.Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01538502318975037711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-17296681149328101522011-05-02T12:50:21.618+10:002011-05-02T12:50:21.618+10:00What a great, grace-infused perspective, Jean. Pra...What a great, grace-infused perspective, Jean. Praise God!Gordon Chenghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07588151868151940982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7276278342039529509.post-43995130501203690552011-05-02T11:21:30.326+10:002011-05-02T11:21:30.326+10:00It's a challenge, though, to train our kids an...It's a challenge, though, to train our kids and point them in the right direction without big noting our virtue. Is it enough to say, "We try not to spend money on things we don't really need. Then we'll have more for the stuff that really matters." and leave it there?<br /><br />I'm uncomfortable with your line because I think there's a pretty high chance that if I used it, our kids would repeat it at school. [Your daughter is probably old enough and cluey enough not to!]<br /><br />But I do agree with the essence of the post. Spending less (or not) is a choice.simone rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16626356778188873309noreply@blogger.com