Tuesday, May 12, 2009

remembering the fires


Thomas (5) brought this picture home from school. I asked him to tell me about it.

"I was drawing, but then the fire came and burned up my beautiful garden. I didn't want it to, but it did! Why did it, Mummy?"

At some level, in some way, Thomas is still processing last summer's bushfires. Even when his mind isn't aware of it, his hands are drawing his anxiety, and showing that we still have some issues to talk and pray about.

Monday, May 11, 2009

Sunday afternoon football

Nothing deep and meaningful today, just the story of a Sunday afternoon trip to the footy...

Sunday afternoon, and the shadows lie light and insubstantial on the grass.

The sun is warm and the air cool, luminous with the soft clear light of Autumn, when the sun rides low and lazy across the arc of the sky. The trees stand in solemn rows in the park, each on its elongated oval of shadow.

We're here for a suburban footy match. We pay our twenty dollars and walk through a gap in the old-fashioned red brick curve of the stadium wall. There's grubby concrete underfoot and leaning wooden benches on either side. We thread our way between the few spectators to the plastic bucket seats of the new grandstand, the product of a former club president's forgotten dream of glory.

The ground's name changes with every new sponsor, but the real matches have moved on to the glossy grey stadiums with their enormous crowds and television rights. Here only the suburban teams play. Crumpled crisp wrappers rattle down the empty rows, the grime grows thick and undisturbed on every surface, and pigeon droppings pattern the seats.

We choose a seat, half in and half out of the sun, and sit. My husband watches the game. My littlest boy trots between the chairs and up and down the stairs, sturdily independent. My older children take turns on a hand-held electronic toy, guzzle lemonade, and squabble over who has eaten the most chips. I read, legs comfortably extended, as the hours of the afternoon stretch long and languid before me.

I glance at the game from time to time, ignoring the score but enjoying the play of light and shadow across the manicured grass. There is poetry in the rise and fall of legs, the red and blue of the footy jumpers, the ball soaring first one way and then the other. From the feet of the players trail elongated black versions of themselves, running, swooping and stumbling across the grass, a second team in precise silhouette.

The quiet is barely broken by the distant rumble of Melbourne trams, the umpires' whistle, the occasional hopeful cheer from the tiny crowd, the constant calls of the players and the clap of shoe on ball magnified by this satellite dish of a footy ground. We sit in a bubble of warm air and silence, the sounds echoing as if from a remote distance.

Sunday afternoon, and the shadows lie long and lanky on the grass.

It's half-time. Kids and dads surge onto the ground, kicking their footies, pretending for a brief moment of glory that they are footy stars rising to the cheers of thousands of fans and heralded by the cries of the commentators.

I watch my husband and children run onto the ground. The little one's legs piston frantically as he struggles to keep up, corn-coloured hair gleaming in the sun. The older kids scream, "It's my turn! Kick it to me, Daddy!". Our enormous translucent orange ball bounces erratically among the purposeful professional-looking footballs.

The sun gleams from the shiny silver girders of a half-built fitness centre. White motionless banks of cloud stretch flat over the curving lines of the grandstands, their smooth sweep broken by city buildings and the tops of palm trees. Seagulls fly low over the ground. I can smell dust and cigarettes.

My older two boys go on their own crazy exploration. I watch, heart in mouth, as they clamber from grandstand to grandstand, disappearing into the dark bowels of the stands then re-emerging, heads bobbing as they run between the seats and up and down stairs, smaller and smaller in the distance, until they sit far away on the other side of the ground. We wave, and they wave back. They return like homing pigeons to our side, puffing with exertion and exaltation.

The sun shines into our eyes, dropping lower and lower, pursuing us into the ever-decreasing shaded parts of the grandstand. We move from one patch of shade to another, like frightened rabbits hugging the last stand of corn at harvest time.

The siren sounds. It's time to go home. I hold my tired middle son's hand, and my husband carries the little one, as we trudge through the park back to the car. Golden late afternoon sunlight threads between the trunks of the trees, each on its stripe of shadow stretching far across the park.

Sunday afternoon, and the shadows lie black and heavy on the grass.

images are from Crashy, pominoz, littlenutbrownhare & Barnstorm Creative at flickr.com

Friday, May 8, 2009

Sunday School - the law and sacrifices (2) the law


How do you teach the Old Testament law to children? More than 600 commands, from "Do not cook a young goat in its mother's milk" Exod 23:19 to "'If a man sleeps with his daughter-in-law, both of them must be put to death" (Lev 20:12)!

The obvious place to start is with the 10 commandments: the "words of the covenant" spoken by God out of fire, cloud and deep darkness (Exod 34:28, Exod 19-20, Deut 5). For these 10 words are the foundation of God's law and covenant with Israel.

Besides, the giving of the 10 commandments on Mount Sinai is a rollicking good story! As I told the story, the kids drew and pasted the events on a poster (I cut out the shapes beforehand). I can't remember a more enjoyable Sunday School lesson!

We started with Mount Sinai when the Israelites arrived there after a 3 month journey through the desert from Egypt, and God told them to get ready for his coming in 3 days time:



On the third day, there was deep darkness on the mountain:

There was thick cloud:


There was thunder and lightning:


God descended on the mountain in fire, and smoke billowed up as if from a furnace:


The mountain trembled, a trumpet blast sounded, and God spoke from out of the fire, cloud and darkness:

God spoke 10 words which he later wrote on 2 tablets of stone:

We read through the 10 commandments, holding up 1 finger for each until we reached 10 fingers (I explained adultery as "not keeping your promise to the person you're married to"). I asked the kids which ones they could remember, and we ran through them again, holding up 10 fingers.

I didn't want to teach that we have to keep this law today: we don't. (Interestingly, when I asked the kids whether we have to obey the 10 commandments, half said "yes" and half "no" - probably a lower degree of confusion than adult Christians!).

To the Israelites, God said "be careful to do what the LORD your God has commanded you" (Deut 5:32). But to us he says, "Now that faith has come, we are no longer under the supervision of the law" (Gal 3:25).

Jesus obeyed the 10 commandments perfectly on our behalf. When he died, he took the punishment we deserve for disobeying the law. We no longer have to obey the law (Gal 3:25, Rom 6:15, 18, 7:4, 8:2, 10:4). Instead, God asks something far harder: to love him and others with everything that's in us (Matt 5).

Only 2 commands remain, the heart of all the rest. We held up 2 fingers as we talked about these: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength" and "'Love your neighbour as yourself" (Mark 12:30-31 cf John 13:34, 15:12, Rom 13:9-10, Eph 5:1-2, 1 John 3:16, 23, 4:21, Jam 2:8).

My 5 year old son Thomas, after hearing that we don't need to keep the 10 commandments, said, "Does that mean we get to KILL PEOPLE?" I disappointed him by asking, "If we love people, will we kill them?" "NO!" "If we love people, will we steal from them?" "NO!" "If we love God, will we worship idols?" "NO!"

Love fulfils everything the law demands and more (Matt 5:17, Rom 13:8, 10, Gal 5:14, 6:2). Here's our "before and after" picture for the book we're making this term (brown for the tablets of stone?? I had trouble picking a colour for this one!).


This Sunday, we'll be talking about the tabernacle - God's royal tent - and we'll start making a tabernacle model. I'm looking forward to it!

Thursday, May 7, 2009

eating for my brother

We're having salmon patties for dinner.

Thomas (5), even though he usually enjoys this meal, feels it's necessary to register his protest: "I don't like salmon patties, Mum! How many do I have to eat?" I tell him, "Start with one, darling, and we'll see."

Thomas eats his first patty.

Across the table, Andrew (2) regards his salmon patties with deep suspicion.

Thomas eats a second patty. "Look, Mummy, I'm showing Andrew how to eat!"

Andrew ignores all threats, encouragements and offers of tomato sauce for his patties.

Thomas eats a third patty. "Look, Mummy, I'm distwacting Andrew!"

Andrew brings his mouth to the fork, but can't bring himself to take a mouthful.

Thomas eats a fourth patty. "Look, Mummy, I'm setting a good example for Andrew!"

Andrew finally dares to take a bite, and gobbles down four patties in quick succession.

Thomas and Andrew both leave the table, replete, and Thomas never has to admit that he actually likes salmon patties.

After all, he was eating them for his brother. Wasn't he?

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

online meanderings: training girls

Today I pick up where I left off in my series on kids and chores. I'd like to tell you about a girl talk series on training daughters to manage a home.

You may remember my series on biblical womanhood. It was based on Carolyn Mahaney's book Feminine Appeal, where she says this about mothers and daughters:

Of all the mentoring relationships among women, none is more significant than the one between a mother and her daughter. Those of us who have been blessed with daughters have the opportunity, and indeed, the obligation to emphasize the feminine qualities of Titus 2 in our teaching repertoire.

We live in a society that emphasizes preparation and education for everything but marriage, motherhood, and homemaking. Therefore we must give this profession our highest attention when it comes to preparing our daughters for their futures.
How do you train a daughter to manage a home? Carolyn and her daughters gave their ideas in last year's girl talk series on training girls, starting with this quote in the post Homemaking school:

"The fact is, our girls have no home education. ... Those early habits, which would have made domestic care a light and easy task, have never been taught ... ; and the result is, that when cares come, as come they must, they find them misery."
The series continued with Note from a homemaker, which included these sobering words from a mother of grown children:

I see [my daughters] struggle in certain areas of homemaking and know that I could have saved them much heartache and frustration if I had done my job as a mother properly.
The next post, A daughter's heart for the home, talks about inspiring girls with a vision for homemaking in a world which devalues it.

Mom's example in the home is reassuring for mothers of toddlers because it says this isn't the time for training in homemaking! It acknowledges that it's important to teach boys to help around the home, but not to forget that we're training them for a different role to girls.

Homemaking 101 talks about the practicalities of handing on every-day skills to our daughters. I love - and am terrified by! - the idea of asking an older daughter to run the home for a few weeks. What a brilliant way to help a girl (or a boy!) realise what's involved in managing a home.

For better or for worse suggests helpfully that when you're weak in a certain area of homemaking, you ask someone else to teach you and your daughter these skills, or go to classes together (although I don't really see bow-tying as an important womanly pursuit - clearly, I'm deficient in my femininity!).

There's a great post about Homemaking books if you're interested in doing some reading with or for your daughter.

Two useful posts from other blogs are Nicole's working with kids, on how you can teach kids just by getting them involved in housework; and Heather Koerner's Study to show yourself an SAHM, on the importance of training in managing a home.

Lots of food for thought! I'll try to wrap it all up soon - God willing! - with a post on kids and chores. If you have any final suggestions or comments, I'd love to hear from you!

image is from daveparker at flickr.com

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

gospel self-talk in simple sentences

What simple sentences do you use to remind yourself of God's truth?

What are the main temptations you struggle with? Do you have a short fuse, jumping all the way from calm to angry outburst in a second? Are you anxious, always struggling with fears and worries? Has bitterness overtaken your heart, driving out joy and contentment? Do you have what Ed Welch calls "a resistant strain of guilt", like a virus, driving out the comfort of God's grace?

I've talked lots on this blog about preaching to yourself. I want to share a way of doing this which I've found helpful recently.

You can preach God's truth to yourself by reading the Bible, memorising Bible passages, recalling Bible verses, listening to Christian music, or listening to talks: there are all kinds of ways of reminding yourself of God's goodness, sovereignty and grace.

But in the heat of the moment, when you're tempted to bitterness, anxiety or despair, these can be too slow and complicated (except maybe the Bible verse recall).

So what I've done is to invent simple sentences, quick summaries of Gods' truth, that I can speak to myself when I feel the familiar pull to doubt God's goodness, or worry about my children, or drown in guilt.

Here's some of my common temptations (I'm sure you have your own!) and the sentences I've come up with to combat them:

  • When I've sinned, or made a mistake or a wrong decision, and I'm beating myself over the head with it:
    "I'm already perfect in God's eyes because Jesus died for me."
  • When I'm worried about what someone thinks of me:
    "It doesn't matter what they think of me. It only matters what God thinks of me, and he just wants me to be faithful."
  • When God hasn't answered one of my prayers - normally a trivial one! - or I'm late for school or something's gone wrong and I wonder if he loves me:
    "God doesn't exist for my convenience."
  • When I feel bad and want to make myself feel better by eating:
    "The comfort this brings will soon turn to despair. My true comfort is found in Jesus."
  • When I'm worried about the effect my sin has on my children:
    "God uses everything for my children's good and his glory, even my sin."
  • When I'm tempted to be proud of something I've achieved:
    "I have nothing that I was not given. May all the glory go to God!"
I know these sentences are very simplistic. Perhaps "simple" would be a better word. For behind each of them lie truths about God which are rich, full and liberating: that God is absolutely sovereign, that he sent his only Son to die for me, that his grace frees me from condemnation, that I don't have to earn his favour, that he is good, and that his glory is all that matters.

What simple sentences do you use to remind yourself of God's truth?

Monday, May 4, 2009

the fear of the LORD (2b) the fear in fear

Has "the fear of the LORD" got anything to do with fear?

There are many kinds of fear in the Bible, from respect to terror.
In the Old Testament, children are commanded to "fear" their parents (Lev 19:3) and nations to tremble with "fear" at God's judgement (Ps 76:7, 90:11, Isa 19:16, Mal 4:5). In the New Testament, wives are encouraged to "fear" their husbands (Eph 5:33) and Jesus tells his disciples to "fear" the One who can "destroy both soul and body in hell" (Matt 10:28, Lk 12:5).*

What kind of fear is "the fear of the LORD"?

Some say that "the fear of the LORD" means obedience, and has nothing to do with feeling scared. Others say that "the fear of the LORD" means just that: feeling scared. I don't think either gets it quite right.

There's definitely an element of fear in "the fear of the LORD". Look at the reasons we're told to "fear the LORD":*

Most of these are what you might call God's scary attributes: his awesome majesty, limitless power, absolute holiness and dreadful judgement. And it's God's very own people who are said to fear him because of these things.

I only found one verse which uses the technical term "fear the LORD" for the unrepentant enemies of God - on the day of judgement, they will "hide in the ground from dread [fear] of the LORD" (Isa 2:10).**

If his enemies are said to "fear him", it's generally because they have bowed the knee to his authority (e.g. Ex 9:20, 2 Chron 6:32-33, Ps 64:9, 2:15, Isa 59:19).

But 99% of the time, it is God's own people who are said to "fear the LORD". And we fear him with trembling! (Jer 5:22, Ps 119:120, 2 Cor 7:15, Phil 2:12)

Remember when God spoke out of fire and darkness on Mount Sinai? The Israelites were so afraid that they begged Moses to speak to God for them, so they would not hear God's voice and die.

God doesn't say, "Oh, don't worry, I'm really quite safe." He says, "Everything they said was good. Oh, that their hearts would be inclined to fear me!" (Deut 5:22-33). God wants them to fear him!

But he also tells them not to be afraid. Moses says "Do not fear. God has come to test you, so that the fear of God will be with you to keep you from sinning" (Exod 20:20).

God wants them to be scared enough of his judgement to trust and obey him. But he also wants them to remember that they have no reason to be afraid of judgement as long as they fear God by trusting and obeying him.

The "fear of the LORD" is not a fear which drives us from God, but a fear which drives us to God. We flee from God's judgement to the arms of his mercy and love. Yet we still fear with trembling. We have escaped God's judgement, but we never take God lightly!

Here's our definition so far (keep in mind it's not finished yet!):

To fear the LORD is to take seriously his awesome majesty, limitless power, absolute holiness and dreadful judgement, and so to submit to him as the one true God, with trust, love, worship, honour, service and obedience.

Next time, I want to talk more about what it means to fear God without being afraid.

* The words generally translated "fear" are the Hebrew word yare and related words, and the Greek word phobos and related words. One is used to translate the other: see Rom 3:18. If you look up the references I've given you in the NIV, you'll notice the word "fear" is translated in a number of different ways, including "fear", "dread", "afraid", "respect", "revere", "awe" and "worship". If I've given you the verse, the word in the original is "fear" (or "fearful" for "awesome" and "dreadful").

** If you know Hebrew, you can confirm this for me!


images are from stock.xchng; the imais from The ten commandments

Friday, May 1, 2009

Sunday School - the law and sacrifices (1) God's rescue

I'm leading Sunday School again this term. I've chosen a really easy topic this time (hah!): the Old Testament law and sacrificial system.

My kids know their early Bible stories - Noah, Joseph and all that - but they're very hazy when it comes to the law and sacrifices. So I came up with the bright idea of doing this topic in Sunday School.

I've discovered that the law is spread across 4 Bible books: Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy. If you're anything like me, when you try to read the whole Bible you get stuck somewhere in Leviticus (long repetitive lists of laws) or Numbers (ditto plus long lists of names and numbers). Let's just say that these don't immediately strike you as the most riveting books of the Bible.

(Here's a hint: next time you read Leviticus and Numbers, read them quickly, 5 or so chapters a day, and read Hebrews at the same time. I've been reading them like this, and have found them fascinating!)

I've found that there's very little useful Sunday School material on the law and sacrifices. I bought a book on the tabernacle with some useful charts and pictures, but it uses typology in what seems to me a pretty unbiblical way (the show-bread is Jesus, the bread of life; the lampstand is Jesus, the light of the world; etc.) so I won't be using this book much. Any online teaching material on the tabernacle is along these lines.

Instead, I've chosen some central themes which I'll teach and use to show how Jesus fulfils the law: rescue, law, clean & unclean, tabernacle, sacrifices, priests, high priest, and covenant.

I started last Sunday with an overview of God's rescue of his people from Egypt. You can't understand the law without seeing its roots firmly in God's grace. So, to give the kids some background, and to show them that grace came before law, I told them the story of the exodus.

I printed out about 30 Bible colouring pages from the internet, and got the kids to put them in order and stick them together in a long line. They went into our cardboard "television" (which you might remember from Ruth) and the kids "watched" the TV while I told the story of God's people, from Abraham

to Mount Sinai.

Instead of doing separate crafts, each child will make a book this term, to take home so they can remember what they've learned. The books will be made up of 9 colour-coded pages, one for each week, and we'll put them together at the end of term.

At the top of each page is a question: "How does God rescue us? How does God want us to live? How can God forgive us?". On the left-hand side ("Then") is a picture and Bible verse showing how the Old Testament answers the question. On the right-hand side ("Now") is a picture and Bible verse showing how the New Testament answers the question. There'll be a pop-up cross in the centre of every page to show that Jesus' death and resurrection is the event which moves us from "then" to "now". Here's our first page:



It should be a fun term! We're going to build a tabernacle model, re-enact a sacrifice (in non-bloody form with a soft toy!), and use maps, models, and pictures. I'll keep you posted.

image of Abraham is from trinitytimes, imagesof Moses are from sermons4kids and FAA

Thursday, April 30, 2009

dreaming of dreams

I'm picking the kids up from school. I collect Thomas from his classroom, gather Lizzy on the way, and go to find Ben on the school playground.

As soon as he sees me, the words pour out of his mouth. "Joel had a dream about Pokemon, Mummy! He actually dreamt about Pokemon! He dreamt he was a Scyther in a Pokemon battle! I want a Pokemon dream too, Mummy! I'm going to make myself have a dream about Pokemon!"

Like me, Ben can occasionally control what he dreams. He can pull himself out of a bad dream, or think so hard about something before sleep that he dreams it. He has a vivid imagination, which sometimes terrifies him, so every night we pray for "good dreams and good imaginings". If anyone can make himself have the dream he wants, it's Ben.

***

It's after dinner, and Ben is getting ready for his great night's adventure. He prances around the kitchen, working himself into the role, arms scything the air.

"Do you think it would hurt if you had a Pokemon battle in a dream, Mummy? I'm sure it would! But I don't care! I want to be a Pokemon in a battle, even if it does hurt! Sometimes the attacks do 150 damage! That would hurt, wouldn't it Mummy? I think I'd like to be a Pokemon with really high health. Then the attack wouldn't do so much damage. But I don't care if it hurts! I want to dream I'm a Pokemon in a battle! I'm going to make myself dream about Pokemon, Mummy!"

I tuck him into bed. I can hear him muttering frantically to himself, trying to soak his brain in the world of Pokemon so that he can segue effortlessly into the dream he longs for. He falls asleep.

***

It's morning, and Ben comes out of his room, all rumpled and bleary eyed with sleep.

"Did you have a Pokemon dream, darling?"

"Yes, but it wasn't quite what I'd hoped for."

"Oh. What happened?"

"Well, it was a quiz, and I had to answer questions about rock-type Pokemon."

"So no battles?"

"No battles."

"Oh."

***

Ah, the small disappointments of life.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Sandy Grant on a cure for gospel tongue-tie

I want to share a comment from Sandy Grant which I received on my post A cure for gospel tongue-tie at Sola Panel yesterday. What he says is so helpful that I'm going to add part of it to yesterday's post, with thanks to Sandy, for anyone who's trawling through this blog for posts on evangelism.

He inspired me to follow up on those conversations when I go away thinking, "If only I said ...". I follow up on unresolved issues when I lead Bible studies or mentor someone, so why not with my friends who don't know Jesus?

He says:
Asking questions and being genuinely interested is absolutely right.

I also think practice - rehearsal even - is a key point. Chappo made this point somewhere, when he explained that for a year, as a younger man, he and a friend had read the editorial in the daily paper and rung each other and discussed whether either could think of anything Christian to say about the topic of the day. This meant they were more likely to be ready for topics that were likely to be under current discussion. It was a form of rehearsal.

Col 4:5 says (in the NIV) to “make the most of every opportunity”. I have tried to make the most of every missed opportunity, and like you, there have been a few!

If you postmortem what you could have said, then you are more ready for next time a similar thing is said.

But I would add an extra step. Sometimes it will be appropriate to go back to the person and say,

You know what you said about X the other day, I didn’t know what to say, but I couldn’t get it out of my head, and here’s what’s come to me since.

or
I was thinking more about what you said yesterday, and here’s something I’ve found helpful [or my minister or friend recommended] in reading on the topic… Are you interested in having a copy?

It won’t always be suitable, but going back to the person shows you really take them seriously and they got you thinking. I suspect many people will respect that. (But don’t over do it!)